How to Tie a Bow Tie — Self-Tied Step-by-Step Guide
A self-tied bow tie always looks better than pre-tied once adjusted. Learn it before the event day — not in the parking lot.
- Difficulty Intermediate
- Formality Black-tie optional to formal
- Best collar Wing collar, formal turndown
- Knot size Self-tied bow
Watch the knot
When to wear a bow tie
Weddings, galas, tuxedo dinners, and black-tie optional invitations. For everyday office shirts and standard neckties, stay with Four-in-Hand or Half Windsor.
Steps
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Drape and cross
Place the bow tie around your neck, seam inward. One end slightly longer. Cross the longer end over the shorter end.
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Loop through the neck
Pass the longer end up through the neck loop and let it hang forward — this is your working end.
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Form the first bow
Fold the shorter end horizontally into a bow shape where the finished knot will sit.
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Drop the working end
Bring the working end down over the center of that bow.
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Fold and push through
Fold the working end into a bow and push it through the loop behind the first bow (the hole behind the center).
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Adjust both wings
Pull the folded ends and adjust until both wings are even and the center knot is snug but not crushed.
Pro tips
- Practice in front of a mirror with the same shirt collar you will wear.
- Uneven wings are normal at first — adjust by tugging the folded ends, not by restarting every time.
- Silk bow ties hold shape; cotton can look softer and more casual.
Related knots
Daytime formal necktie: Full Windsor. Business default: Half Windsor.